Miss Modesty, Mom on Duty, and To Do or Not to Do

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Miss Modesty, Mom on Duty, and To Do or Not to Do
Topic Started: Mar 2 2010, 06:27 PM (343 Views)
Post #1 Mar 2 2010, 06:27 PM	eye95
Tuesday, March 2, 2010 DEAR MISS MODESTY: What you are experiencing from the other women is not out of the norm. How you are choosing to react is. It is up to you to find a way to deal, either by not placing yourself in ladies' locker rooms or seeking help in overcoming your greater than normal modesty. DEAR MOM ON DUTY: In addition to Abby's good advice, it should be added that you and your husband need to clearly define standards for your girls. They should already know not to dye their hair, or should find out as soon as they do, assuming the possibility had never occurred to you. If your girls fail to meet your standards, there should be consequences--even when that happens under the not-so-watchful eyes of other parents. Bottom line: Define standards for your girls. Hold them responsible for meeting those standards. DEAR TO DO OR NOT TO DO: Do not marry until, as a couple, you are ready to be financially self-sufficient in what will be your own home. Until then, if necessary, your fiance should move back home. If you are absolutely certain that you are financially ready to marry and if your life situation is such that you feel the need to marry before your scheduled wedding day (so you can move in together without shacking up--a commendable motive), then, by all means, marry. If you choose to host another ceremony, as originally scheduled, it will not be a wedding. Call it something else, and be prepared for some folks not to react well. Some will choose not to attend. Some will choose not to send gifts. Be gracious however your guests choose to react. You should even be willing to suffer a little rudeness without responding in kind. After all, you will have upset some people's expectations. One last thing, were your parents were planning on paying for the wedding, as tradition once dictated? If you marry early and they were planning on footing the bill, they may (rightfully) change their minds, just as your changed yours.	Administrator Posts: 2,647 Group: Editor-in-Chief Member #1 Joined: December 11, 2005



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