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| Falling apart and Worried Wife | |
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| Topic Started: Feb 25 2010, 08:33 AM (117 Views) | |
| Post #1 Feb 25 2010, 08:33 AM |
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Thursday, February 25, 2010 DEAR FALLING APART: You are not wrong for having the feelings you have. You are wrong for how you acted on them. Feelings are neither right nor wrong. We exercise no control over them. We do exercise control, however, on the actions we choose to take. It is natural for you to have feelings of jealousy because your father is looking for comfort from someone other than you and your brother. Instead of confronting your father and having an argument, you should have accepted that he is an adult, capable of making decisions about the company he keeps. Do you suppose that there is there any link between your willingness to argue with your father while he is grieving and his looking for comfort elsewhere? DEAR WORRIED WIFE: You are right to worry. A man of your husband's years cannot possibly find the company (or the texts) of an 11-year-old intellectually stimulating at all. Something else is going on here, and it is rightly setting off alarm bells in you and some of the other adults in the neighborhood. It is hard to fathom that the young girl's parents are not worried. Maybe they are in denial and are too afraid of stifling their daughter. You can approach Lacey's parents, as Abby suggests, however they will likely brush off your concerns, possibly reacting with hostility. The person to talk to is your husband. His relationship with Lacey is inappropriate and even dangerous. If you cannot make him see this, then you are going to have to put your foot down. Since only you know the dynamics of your relationship with your husband, you will have to be the one to choose the way you will exercise power in this situation. Just remember the bottom line: This relationship between your husband and an 11-year-old girl has to be stopped cold--NOW. |
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