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| Lost the Battle, Blown away, and Peeved by the Peepers | |
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| Topic Started: Feb 24 2010, 09:21 AM (111 Views) | |
| Post #1 Feb 24 2010, 09:21 AM |
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Wednesday, February 10, 2010 DEAR LOST THE BATTLE: Why on Earth would you ask such a question?!? Your question is what is called a "false choice." The point of a false choice is to back someone into a corner, to force him to say what you want to hear, or to make him appear foolish. That is a horrible thing to do to your husband. Most people don't react well to false choices. They often rebel. It is not surprising that, when you say, "It's the wine or me," that he says, "the wine." He may or may not mean it. Now, because you cornered him with a false choice, you'll never know. You must repair this problem that you have created. You need to apologize and try to make things right. Then, you, as a couple, need professional counseling. Whatever made you wonder about your husband's preferences and the way you chose to deal with it, both need to be explored thoroughly, or your marriage is in grave trouble. DEAR BLOWN AWAY: Abby is right. She just provided no practical advice. Make one more effort to get your wife to schedule an appointment with the doctor. No demands. No threats. If she refuses to go, you need to resort to natural consequences. In this case, the natural consequence when she is flatulent is to leave the room. Even if the two of you are being romantic, when she passes gas, get up, go to the living room, and turn on the TV. Make no comments when you do this. When she asks, and she will, explain with no recriminations, that you choose not to be around when she has gas. Explain that you would be more sympathetic if she were getting help. DEAR PEEVED BY THE PEEPERS: They watch you too much, and you worry too much about them observing you in public out in front of your home. These people are probably lonely and just trying to find information to make conversation. They are probably lonely because they stink at small talk. You can either overlook this failing and try to be more friendly, or you can choose not to associate with these neighbors. If you choose the latter, be curt in your answers and walk away. Even if they don't get the message, it will be less bothersome if you don't let it bother you. |
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