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| Trying to Be Fair, Bar None, and No Lauging Matter | |
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| Topic Started: Feb 22 2010, 09:06 AM (25 Views) | |
| Post #1 Feb 22 2010, 09:06 AM |
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Monday, February 22, 2010 DEAR TRYING TO BE FAIR: Stop trying to be fair. Life isn't fair. Your sons are proof of this. I will leave the pseudo-medical advice to Abby and the real medical advice to your doctor. Find a way medically or non-medically to make your diabetic son not feel left out when the sudden opportunity to provide your non-diabetic son with a treat pops up. There is no need to make sure that they get exactly the same treat. Not only will this approach teach both of your children to deal with the unfairness of life, but it is probably safer than trying to engineer your son's metabolism on the spur of the moment. DEAR BAR NONE: The mistake was made at the time you hired the bartender. Bartenders routinely put out tip jars. If you didn't want him to follow this standard practice, you should have settled this before the party, letting him know that you would increase his compensation to make up for the lost tips, either by raising his hourly rate or by promising that you will provide the tip at the end of the night. You should also ask how much he would expect to make from his tip jar to get an idea of the range in which you should tip. Not having done that, you should have let him keep the tip jar, or stuffed it yourself at the beginning of the night, asking him to now put it away. You should not have argued, and you should not have put the matter to a vote of your guests. Your actions were tackier than any tip jar would have been. One last thing: The men not having a problem with the tip jar should have been a clue. They, who would be picking up most of the drinks, had no problem tipping. This should have indicated that the tip jar was no big deal. DEAR NO LAUGHING MATTER: Abby is wrong. You should not talk to your mother-in-law about her rude jokes. Your husband should. If he does not notice on his own that you need defending from his mother, ask him nicely to say something. If he still does not, only then bring it up to your mother-in-law--and wonder how much of a man you married. Oh, and, NO DNA. That is the silliest suggestion Abby has ever made. You owe your mother-in-law no proof of your fidelity. |
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