| We hope you enjoy your visit. You're currently viewing our forum as a guest. This means you are limited to certain areas of the board and there are some features you can't use. If you join our community, you'll be able to access member-only sections, and use many member-only features such as customizing your profile, sending personal messages, and voting in polls. Registration will allow you to join in the discussion which is amazingly free of personal rancor and trolls! We are currently looking for posters from both the left and the right who have a demonstrated capacity to discuss fervently without letting personalities get in the way. Is that you? We need more staff. Join our community! If you're already a member please log in to your account to access all of our features: |
| Grandma, Tired of the Tirades, and Troubled | |
|---|---|
| Topic Started: Feb 16 2010, 08:52 AM (160 Views) | |
| Post #1 Feb 16 2010, 08:52 AM |
|
|
Tuesday, February 16, 2010 DEAR GRANDMA: The problem is both quantity and quality. We are much smarter today regarding eating and health. Children should be limited to eating five times a day: three balanced meals and two healthful snacks. Limit, but don't deny, sweets. Don't force children to eat. Regulate balance by giving small first portions and requiring all foods on the plate be eaten before seconds of anything are given. It is probably better to remind children, "You won't be getting anything more to eat until breakfast," than to say, "Clean your plate," however, parents know their children best, and short of abuse, we ought not second-guess the parenting techniques of others. DEAR TIRED OF THE TIRADES: Just continue to be the adult. Don't spend time with people who behave in a way you can't abide. And, no, contrary to what Abby says, it is not mental abuse. Only if you choose to be "abused" by his words and his tone will you be a "victim." Furthermore, the person almost surely does not need to see a mental health professional. He just needs people who don't like his tirades to stop feeding them. When you believe that his behavior is over-the-top, leave. Feel free to explain to him later why you left, just be prepared to have to leave again. If you matter to him, he will adjust his behavior. If he is okay with your leaving, either you should accept that both of you don't enjoy each other's company, or you should examine, and possibly adjust, your own behavior. This is just another case of "You can't control what others do. You can only control what you choose to do." DEAR TROUBLED: You can't control what your step-daughter says an does. Your wife can drive home the point that your step-daughter's selfishness will only hurt her and her child--by telling her to apologize to the rest of the family, or Mom will be joining them on the cruise. Your daughter's ultimatum is self-centered to the extreme and deserves an extreme rebuke. We can only hope that the person best able to deliver it, your wife, has the intestinal fortitude to do so. |
Administrator
  ![]](http://z2.ifrm.com/static/1/pip_r.png)
|
 
|
 |
| 1 user reading this topic (1 Guest and 0 Anonymous) | |
| « Previous Topic · Dear, Sweet Abby Got it Wrong! · Next Topic » |
2:58 AM May 22