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| Blackmailed, Couponing, and Unrelated | |
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| Topic Started: Mar 4 2009, 07:40 PM (133 Views) | |
| Post #1 Mar 4 2009, 07:40 PM |
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It's been a while since I have posted that Abby blew it, but this one showed up in Yahoo's headlines and Abby clearly blew it, giving politically correct, automaton-style advice. Wednesday, March 4, 2009 Dear Blackmailed: You can only be blackmailed if you did something wrong enough to want to hide it and if you want to continue to hide it. Come clean, and it's over. Clearly, your parents do not want you to be having sex. So don't. Unless you wish to move out and become responsible for yourself. If you set up your own household, you get to make whatever mistakes you want--because only you will suffer the consequences. As for "protection," don't be foolish. Protection fails. Abby's advice to double up on the protection is foolish, too. You may decrease the chance of making another human being, but the only way to eliminate that chance is abstinence. Likewise with STD's. No so-called "protection" guarantees you won't get infected. Abstinence will. Fess up. Take whatever consequences that your mom deals out. And, knock off the irresponsible behavior until you are a responsible adult, ready to deal--on your own--with all possible outcomes of your behavior. Oh, and your sister's behavior is despicable. She needs the comeuppance that will result when you finally confide in your mother. Otherwise, expect to be paying blackmail for years to come. Dear Couponing: Abby almost got it right. Yes, tip on the pre-coupon amount. The service you receive is not lessened by the coupon, and the restaurant issuing you the coupon only obligates them to give you a discount. The server has no such obligation and should not suffer a reduction in pay because of a separate transaction between you and the restaurant. Dear Unrelated: Abby and your wife are both quite wrong. Your daughter's in-laws are NOT part of your family. That is not to say that you cannot treat them as such if you choose. However, we have obligations to family members (including our own in-laws) that are independent of how we feel about them. No such obligations exist for our children's in-laws. So, if they are nice people and you enjoy spending time with them, feel free to treat them like family. If you don't feel the need to be around them a lot, treat them like acquaintances or friends. If you really cannot tolerate being in their presence, avoid them, but always be polite at gatherings that include both families. |
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