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| Topic Started: Aug 6 2007, 03:07 PM (787 Views) | |
| Post #1 Aug 6 2007, 03:07 PM |
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I know it may sound a little mean, or cold hearted, but I am sooooo glad that school is about to start back! I love my son, but I'm a little pooped after this summer. I have a 2-year-old son as well, and it seems that they are back and forth at each other all day. If one has one toy, then the other has to have that same toy. I know it's just the normal course of things, but I'm tired of hearing "Mine". I have so many toys put up out of reach, that I could probably open my own Toys 'R' Us store. Do they make a Valium drip? ( Don't worry, it's for me, not them....) ;) |
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| Post #2 Aug 6 2007, 03:36 PM |
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ChelleDawn, You cracked me up with the valium drip line. :D Don't you remember the Staples commercial from several years ago? The dad was so excited he had to go buy school supplies. Because it meant the kids would be out of the house again. |
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| Post #3 Aug 6 2007, 03:44 PM |
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Yes, I sympathize. We went this weekend and spent a small fortune. The whole time I was thinking about how "worth it" it is. The thing is, I think he's ready to be around other kids that get "it". Mom just doesn't get "it". What "it" is, I have not a clue.... |
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| Post #4 Aug 6 2007, 04:33 PM |
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ChelleDawn, How old is your oldest child? You realize you won't get "it" for a long time. My daughter is now 21, and I finally get "it". In reality, she finally gets "it", being on her own and having mommy living in another state. |
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| Post #5 Aug 6 2007, 04:43 PM |
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| He's 5. However, I do have a 19-year-old stepson and a 16-year-old stepdaughter. Thank goodness I'm pretty much watching on the sidelines for those two. They have good parents that see to the "raising", I just get to goof around with them. |
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| Post #6 Aug 6 2007, 10:13 PM |
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ChelleDawn, He's 5 and you already don't get "it". I don't envy you the next ?? years. My daughter didn't start that until she was nearly a teenager. At least you are getting some experience with teenagers. |
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| Post #7 Aug 7 2007, 08:25 AM |
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Yes, my 5-year-old still loves the attention that I lavish on him, but he gives me this look like "Mom, what in the world....?" quite often. Of course he probably got that look from me. It just serves me right. Yes, I've been very fortunate to have such great stepkids. They're very good kids. I can't complain at all. |
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| Post #8 Aug 7 2007, 08:48 AM |
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| That's good that your stepkids are so great. I've heard horror stories. You are very fortunate. |
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| Post #9 Aug 16 2007, 12:40 AM |
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We went back-to-school shopping last week. OMG! The best deal I found was at Meijer- a new pair of shoes. Originally $30. On sale for 30% off. Had a coupon for 50% off. Final price: $11. My son wants heelys. But I can't afford them right now. There is supposed to be something comparable to Heelys called Air Force. Anyone heard of them? Believe it or not, I won't need to buy him any school supplies, just clothes. We went overboard last year, and still have a bunch of markers and pencils left over. |
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| Post #10 Aug 16 2007, 09:35 AM |
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No, I've never heard of Air Force. Sorry, I'm not even sure what Heelys are. I know, I'm not cool. Dropped my son off at school this morning. It went pretty smooth. My younger son doesn't know what to do with the run of the house. Pick of toys and everything. Now my youngest must give the dogs a hard time since his big brother isn't here to mess with. |
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| Post #11 Aug 16 2007, 10:25 AM |
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Poor dogs.
:D Maybe your youngest needs a younger sibling :P Just kidding. I looked up Heely's on google. They are the shoes that have wheels built in so you can skate. ChelleDawn - I'm so not cool either. Without my daughter teaching me all the younger peoples language and latest/greatest stuff, I'm oblivious. |
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| Post #12 Aug 16 2007, 12:16 PM |
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Oh, those are heelys. Thanks for researching it! Got it. My son has to wear a uniform, no lights, no wheels, so it's nice for me. Makes shopping and getting things around in the morning so easy! HECK NO! I'm done with having babies....(please, God, let it be) |
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| Post #13 Sep 4 2007, 08:03 PM |
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My son just started back to school today. It's a bit of an adjustment for him because he's in 5th grade and going to a new building which holds classes for all the 5th and 6th graders in our district. He has to get up an hour earlier (6AM) and gets home an hour earlier (3PM). He didn't get much sleep last night (what kid does on the eve of the first day?) and he's a basket case tonight. He gets upset about every little thing and he's grumpy and in tears. I put him to bed at 8, but he's not asleep yet. He told me that the friend (A) whom he has been hanging out with over the summer has suddenly turned mean towards him. Today friend A hung around with another friend (B ) with whom he had a fight just 3 weeks ago. (My son is friends with B as well and we have never had any behavior problems with him until now.) Friend A's parents don't want their son hanging around with friend B because B started some trouble over the summer. B told A that my son was talking bad about him behind his back (which my son said he never did.) So A called my son and said he wasn't going to be friends with him because of what B said. So I called A's parents and we figured out what was going on and they apologized and made up. Then A's parents said they didn't want A hanging around with B. And my son said that today at school A hung around with B and totally snubbed my son. Aren't these the kinds of games girls play on eachother? :unsure: I am pretty sure that my son is the sensitive type. He has always made friends pretty well, but many of them have moved away over the past 3 years or so, so he had a hard time for a while. But last year he made a couple of really good connections at school which was a relief for me because the kids who live in our neighborhood (who don't go to my son's school) aren't the types of kids I want him to hang around. But I am finding that kids are mean and disrespectful. Here I am trying to teach my son respect, dignity, and manners and I am in direct competition with the influences of kids at school. For instance, friend B was over here for a couple of hours to play one day last week and I let them get on the computer. My son asked, "Mom, can we watch South Park?" I said, "No, that's an adult cartoon." Next thing I know they are watching South Park! I shut it down and kicked them off and said, "I make the rules here and I expect them to be followed." Later I asked my son, "Who logged on to that Website?" He said B did. I said, "Did you tell him that I said you weren't to watch that show?" He said, "I did, but he said, 'So, who cares?'" Pardon my irreverence, but WTF? Thanks for letting me vent. I know that these are issues that every caring parent faces and it's going to be a long road. He's only 10. It just seems so young, like it's too sooon to be dealing with all this drama. |
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| Post #14 Sep 4 2007, 08:21 PM |
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I was going to ask the same question you wrote: Isn't this what girls do? I didn't think boys got into, he said, he said. I can't believe a 10 year old said: who cares. What are parents teaching their kids? If my daughter had ever pulled that a someone's house, she would have be busted bit time. I hope you taught your son to not go with the flow. And that it was not OK for him to let the visitor sign on to a site that you had said No to. I'm so glad my daughter is grown up. She didn't have these problems when she was in school. But she's having them at 21. I keep telling her that she needs better friends. They sound like they are in Junior High and not adults. |
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| Post #15 Sep 4 2007, 10:12 PM |
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I just had a long talk with my son, and he just now went to sleep. I pretty much told him the same thing: Find other friends. I mean there are 27 kids in his class. And 19 of them are kids he doesn't know, so there are all kinds of potential new friends to be made. When I was his age, I went through the same thing, I had to find other friends, too. I also had friends that moved away, just like he has. I can so relate, but I don't understand why he has to go through this in the first place. Why can't kids just be kids? Or better yet, why can't boys just be boys? He said that he hoped his dad and I never get divorced. He named off all the friends he has who don't have parents living in the same house, like about a dozen. He said, "Having two houses might be nice, but not as nice as having two parents in the same house." :( :) I think that the problem his friends have is that they are having to deal with all their parents' sh-crap. Friend B's parents just split last spring. Friend A's parents are together, but his dad is a weekend alcoholic. He asked me what a virgin was, which led to the conversation about marriage. We have had some of our best talks at night when we should be going to sleep. :blink: |
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| Post #16 Sep 4 2007, 10:42 PM |
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Whenever you get the opportunity to talk with your kid - take it. Even if it's the middle of the night. When my daughter was willing to talk, that's when I talked to her. I didn't care when or where. I don't remember being a butt when my parents split up. I didn't start being bad because my parents split up. I still had to live by the rules and respect my elders and do as I was told. I think we give kids too many excuses for bad behavior. Oh, blah blah blah happened, so they aren't themselves right now. Well, when I'm PMS'g I don't get away with being a B****. I still have to be nice and play well with others. Just because I'm an adult - I don't agree with that. I wish kids were being taught manners and respect and all the other stuff about being good citizens and productive adults. I just don't see it as much. I noticed a boy (roughly 8 to 10) from our neighborhood today walking between my house and the one next door (it's open with no gates) and he was looking in my kitchen window while he was walking by. Next time, I'll go have a talk with him - I wasn't fast enough today. But I would have never done that as a kid or even as an adult. |
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| Post #17 Sep 5 2007, 12:03 AM |
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You are so right. I wasn't necessarily trying to make excuses. I was more trying to understand how a kid feels these days when adults are going about their business without thinking about what their kids need and how Dr. L has explained kids acting out and how it is the only thing in their lives that they have any control over. My son is now riding the bus with ALL the upper grades, from 5-12. It was necessary for the district to consolidate busing a couple of years ago. They used to run separate routes for the Intermediate School, but now they are all riding the buses all together. He also told me that all the high schoolers use profanity on the bus and the bus driver doesn't do anything about it. That's not the way it worked in elementary school. But apparently either this bus driver didn't hear it, doesn't care or can't do anything about it anyway, so why try? These days, do bus drivers dare go up against big high-school kids? :unsure: I guess I will have to call the bus garage and see what if anything is done with potty-mouthed adolescents. But if it's not on the bus, it's on the playground by fourth grade. I talked to hubby tonight and he related to me a conversation he had with his boss, who has two teenagers. His boss told him, "If you think he learned a lot in fourth grade, just wait until fifth grade!" So, apparently this is part of what he is learning? How to swear in 10 words or less? :angry: |
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| Post #18 Sep 5 2007, 08:16 AM |
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I can almost bet that the bus driver is in apathy over doing anything about the kids cussing. Let's just pretend he's been driving bus for 15 years - he spent the first 5 trying to stop the cussing - didn't happen, so now he doesn't bother. I think kids are much more grown up than they were in my generation. But not in maturity, but in what they have learned through TV, Movies, Video games, parents divorcing, etc. And they don't have the years of experience to process what they are learning. I wish kids were being taught the things I was taught: respect your elders, practice good manners, no vandilism (we were allowed to TP a house, because that didn't cause "damage", but definitely no egging a house), etc. I just see to many kids running "wild" and talking trash. I worry where our moral compass will be in another 10 - 20 years. These kids out there will be running the country at some point - yikes! |
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| Post #19 Sep 5 2007, 03:51 PM |
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Well, I was freaking out last night thinking about all that my son is dealing with. But today, everything is fine.
:lol: My son got along fine with friend A today. I asked my son if he had asked A why he treated him the way that he did and he said just because he wanted to hang with B yesterday. So apparently here is a kid who can only hang out with one person at a time. And on the bus he said he sat up front with the younger kids and not around the teenagers who sat in the back. So all is well, until the next time A decides to snub him again and play with someone else. |
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| Post #20 Sep 6 2007, 09:22 AM |
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Nikki, At least it was better yesterday. Be prepared for a roller coaster ride - it may change on a daily basis. |
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