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| Topic Started: Aug 3 2007, 11:17 PM (349 Views) | |
| Post #1 Aug 3 2007, 11:17 PM |
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I heard a caller yesterday, a woman who worked part-time and whose hubby worked about 80% of the time from the home, and they had I think 3 kids. She was complaining that her hubby didn't pick up after himself and that created more work for her. Today she had a caller, a man who supported his wife, a sahm, and their 3 kids, and called to complain that he didn't think that it was fair that he worked hard to take care of the family and she didn't keep the house clean. With both callers, she emphasized that we should be thankful that there are messes in our homes :( because it means that there are people in our lives whom we love. If those people weren't in our lives, then there wouldn't be a mess to clean up. :( The price of admission to having these other people in our lives, is having things out of place. Look at everything that is in disarray as proof that you have a loving family. She related to the woman the story of a woman who was so disgusted with how her husband never picked up his socks --- until he died. After he died, she said that she would give ANYTHING to see his dirty socks on the floor again. What a reality check. |
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| Post #2 Aug 4 2007, 07:34 AM |
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Well, summer's over and I'm back to work (kids come back in a week), so I am missing a lot of Dr. Laura's show. But, I did manage to catch that call yesterday as I drove home. I think Dr. Laura thinks that a messy house is not a big enough issue to complain about and to risk injuring a marriage. She is dead on. I would like to have heard her add the following: If you don't like the mess, pick it up. Yes, it's unfair that you should have to work and clean, but if that's the only way to get it done (and if you have a need to have it done), then, swallow your pride, hold your tongue, and do it. You might be surprised at side-effects caused by your taking affirmative steps (as opposed to griping). Other family members might just pitch in. |
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| Post #3 Aug 4 2007, 09:36 AM |
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It took me a while to get Dr. L's point on these issues. But I finally did. We grind fresh coffee, so of course there is always some grounds on the counter. I was gripping to myself in the morning that I had to clean it up, because my hubby wasn't. Then it hit me - at least he's here, getting up before me and making the coffee. What a blessing. So cleaning up the counter is no big deal. |
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| Post #4 Aug 5 2007, 07:46 PM |
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Yes as each child leaves the nest, my house is cleaner - how sad... I miss the shoes kicked off at the door, the backbacks thrown in the hall and the trail of trash from refrigerator to counter to TV room. |
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